Frustration!

[JBee]

I have the same problem - most of my research is 200 - 500 miles from home.

OH isn't interested in researching - just the results. So what we do is make use of the travelodge deals and book when there's a sale on . He then goes off and explores whilst I get on with researching. We usually have 1 day where we both go sightseeing etc.
Several times I've been to scotlandspeople and not left my seat from the time I go in until it closes lol!!!!

Why not look for coach or train deals too - saves the driving and spend a few days there.

[Shona]

Although the OH is interested in family history and enthusiastic about the results, he recoils with horror at the of spending any time in an archive.

There has to be an incentive for him. He loves long-distance walks, though, so the last time we went to Argyll, he and a friend walked the Kintyre Way. I dropped them off each morning and collected them every evening. I spent my days studying the Duke of Argyll's 1792 census and various land records as well as photographing gravestones and remote ruins.

Another time, his racing bike came with us. He cycled up and down Scottish hills while I did spent my time at the archives in Fife.

I've now located a copy of the Duke's 1792 census in the London Metropolitan Archives, so that's a bit closer than Campbeltown!

Can I persuade him that we should visit Ireland so I can do more work on his family history, though? No.

[Mary from Italy]

When we're over in the UK mine doesn't mind trips out into the country to look at churches, although he isn't too keen on traipsing round graveyards, but he isn't interested in going to the archives.

I keep hoping to persuade him that we need a trip to Australia, where half my tree comes from, but he isn't keen on flying

[Merry]

OH has already spent about 18 months going to our local record office (about 35 miles away) once a week doing MY research. It didn't do much for marital harmony as, whilst he's brilliant at plodding through endless PRs looking for a specific entry and never rushes or skips anything (like I might ), he's rubbish at lateral thinking, so on returning home he would say what he'd found, but instead of being grateful, I'd say, "but why did you look for X when you already had Y?" or "didn't you think to try looking at parish X before you did that?"

Despite the above, I would still rather have him with me a at RO but I can't see that happening in the near future because of the kids. I wish they had a soundproofed room at the RO with WiFi, an X Box and a TV then the kids could go too!!

I was lucky as my OH loved to travel when we were first married, but then unfortunately he had lower back problems and to get anywhere became difficult. We have grown up knowing we have to travel hours to get anywhere, to get to specialist doctors is between 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 hours. To visit family in Sydney is 8 to 9 hours on a good trip. I must admit I wish I was 3 hours from UK records, but it is all relevant isn't it. Family has priority and I don't think you can rush research. From misexperience it is better to decided more days or multiple visits. I think I should come over for a month going to ROs before I decide to socialise lol Julie

[Merry]

I think I should come over for a month going to ROs before I decide to socialise lol Julie

I know - you could come over and do my Cambridge research for a month and then I would let you socialise, Julie!!!

lol Merry .. just wish I had your skills ..

[Merry]

lol Julie, I don't feel capable of a thing at the moment because I'm so drained with mum. Our relationship has always been strained from my side but she thinks everything is perfect between us, because I'm a good actress, which I now resent being! Exhausting!!

[ElizabethHerts]

Originally Posted by Merry

lol Julie, I don't feel capable of a thing at the moment because I'm so drained with mum. Our relationship has always been strained from my side but she thinks everything is perfect between us, because I'm a good actress, which I now resent being! Exhausting!!

((HUGS)), Merry.
I know from a good friend here how draining it is when you are the only child caring for an elderly parent. Just as well you have your research as a distraction.

[Tom Tom]

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