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Old 25-11-18, 20:14
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I have just discovered one grandfather on Family Search. Okay, he died fifty years ago, but I find it deeply distasteful that someone has joined up the dots and put it out there.
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Old 25-11-18, 20:52
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I sit firmly on the fence here!

I don't have a public tree. My private tree doesn't have any living people on it. However, about an hour ago, I added a close relative who died last year. (I only just found out today).

Yes, very upset to find my parents on someone's public tree, still alive according to them. I think I am upset because they were MY PARENTS but were only a distant un-met twig to someone else.

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Old 25-11-18, 21:29
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I just googled my own birth name and I appear on four trees (two created by the same person) with my OH and children.
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Old 25-11-18, 21:49
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I must say I'm not remotely bothered if I find my dead immediate relations on other people's trees as long as the details are correct. I have other people's dead close relatives on my tree (though not online), so I can't complain about mine being on other trees.
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I wait a while (maybe about a year) after someone's death before adding them to my tree.
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Old 26-11-18, 00:28
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While I regard the idea that someone goes to mormon heaven simply through the actions of a living relation as nonsense, I still feel indignant on my grandfather's behalf that anyone should presume to think that that was what he would have wanted. I certainly know how his daughters would have reacted.

I don't think I would have reacted so strongly to finding him on any other online tree.

Personally, I don't like showing anyone under a century dead on an online tree, though I appreciate that the dead have no rights.

I'm horrified, Merry, that anyone should dare to presume to put your children online.
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Old 26-11-18, 07:03
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I have contacted the person with the two trees a few times in the past asking him to privatise a load of entries, but he never responds.

I've said this before, but I was very annoyed when a new contact added all my Quaker ancestors to the LDS site and then preached to me about why she had done that. She hadn't told me she was a member of the LDS before this.
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Old 05-12-18, 01:36
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Whoever I can, so long as there are at least basic accurate details. I use Ancestry, so living people are not displayed, and only a few of my trees are public anyway.

We don't own our relatives, so we shouldn't be surprised or offended to see them appearing on other people's trees. This is a particularly bizarre thing to be offended by for people who spend much of their lives studying other people's relatives (even if they may well also be ours as well).
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Most of my online trees are private - I have put a limited tree as a public one when fishing for contacts with names like Smith and Brown.
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Old 05-12-18, 17:51
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My tree is online but private. I am happy to share info if someone asks, but I don't open my tree to anyone as there are people alive on there.

It's so easy to find out about people now though. I do remember being really annoyed when someone contacted me and then added my grandmother to her tree with the wrong place of birth as she assumed she knew better than me!
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