Why is it always the way?

[Phoenix]

I have a DNA match. I find a genealogical link. But there is a mutual DNA link with the other side of the family.

I am being driven distracted by the number of times this is happening.

I do have ancestors from both sides who happen to live in the same village in the 1800s, but (so far as I can tell) the link is not there.

Are the rest of you finding this?